In many ways this week we are reaching the climax of the story of
our salvation. We have been reflecting
on the death and resurrection of Jesus for 5 weeks now, trying to let it settle
in. To get our minds, and our souls,
wrapped around the idea that we do not have to fear sin or death because Jesus
defeated sin on the cross and defeated death in the resurrection. And
we, by being incorporated into Jesus through the sacraments, share in his
victory.
And, now, at the climax of the story, before Jesus ascends into
heaven, he gives us what he calls a “new commandment.”
He commands us to “love one another.”
He commands us to “love one another.”
If you stop here, his command makes no sense. It’s not new.
It’s all over the Old Testament.
Love of God and love of neighbor is the theme of the Old Covenant.
What is new about this command? You have to keep reading:
I give you a new commandment: love one another.
Just as I have loved you, you also must love one another.
Ah! There is the new
part. "Just as I have loved you," he
says. Jesus does not command us to some
nebulous kind of love, not some non-specific kind of positive regard, not some
simple tolerance on one side, or fuzzy appreciation on the other.
He commands us to love each other—just as he loved us. God became man, and walked among us, to give us an example of the kind of love we are called to live.
So let us look at the kind of love that Jesus is commanding us to
live.
1st it is Generous.
It truly wants the best for the other.
Jesus’ love was the kind that delights in giving gifts to others. He made 120 gallons of delicious wine to make
a good party better. But Jesus-love does not only delight in giving gifts to friends and family—it overflows the bounds of natural connections. He fed the hungry,
cared for the needy, visited the lonely, spoke words of tenderness to the
outcast. And we are called to live this
kind of generous love that cares for itself, and treats the needs of others as
seriously as its own. Do we feel called
to living more generously? Volunteering
some time or resources to helping those who are in need?
2nd, it is Non-judgmental. Now don’t get me wrong. Jesus style, non-judgmental love does not
suffer from moral ambiguity or confusion.
Jesus style love knows what is right and is not willing to compromise on
principles. Jesus style love does judge actions and denounce sins, but it does not judge people. Jesus love, being a human kind of love, is
comfortable with its limitations, and understands that only God knows the
heart, only God knows all the circumstances.
Is there someone, or some group of someones, that you judge
unjustly? Is there someone that you need
to accept, as a person, even if you see their sin?
Connected to this is the 3rd characteristic, Jesus love
is Forgiving. It seeks reconciliation
with everyone. It seeks healing in
relationships, even those torn by selfishness and sin. Jesus, from the cross, where he won our
salvation, was even willing to forgive those who were at that time crucifying him. We are called to be so full of Jesus love
that we have the ability to offer forgiveness even to those who do not deserve
it. That does not mean trusting them, or
foolishly depending on them, but forgiving them—that is, seeking to heal the
relationship if possible, and not seeking revenge. Is there someone that Jesus is calling you to
forgive?
The 4th characteristic of Jesus love. It is Transformative. It takes in sin, suffering, denial,
rejection, and pain—and it gives back holiness, comfort, acceptance, and
love. It’s like a spiritual vacuum
cleaner that sucks up bad stuff and gives out good stuff. Now this does not mean that we are to cower
under pain and suffering, or that we allow people to viciously abuse us. Jesus does command us to turn the other cheek, but this is most certainly not cowardice. It is the
defiant refusal to let the evil of someone else control you and to make you
give back in like kind. Is there some
suffering, denial, rejection, or pain that you are being called to take on in
the name of Christ? The pain of daring
to share your faith, or speak against sin, with people who might reject
you? Is there some relationship where
you have greater spiritual and emotional resources—so you need to just take it
on the chin and respond with courageous love instead of simply fighting back?
The final
characteristic of Jesus style love is that it is Sacrificial. The 1st Letter of John says: “This
is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we
ought to lay down our lives for our brothers and sisters.” Of course, this could mean literally. It could mean that our deep realization of
our freedom from sin or death leads us to give our life for another. But for most of us we are not faced with this
kind of martyrdom. But we certainly have
opportunities for sacrificial living.
When we deny ourselves the things that we want, so that others can enjoy
something. On the natural level, parents do this when they choose to give up the best of things—time,
money, resources and pleasures— for their kids.
Then later in life, the children returning the favor and caring for the
needs of their elderly parents. But Jesus-love calls us to extend this sacrificial generosity beyond our natural obligations. Denying
ourselves extravagances so that we can give some money to the poor or to
charities, on our own terms, not just because we get taxed. Is there some way in which you are being
called to give up something that you want, for the good of your family? Your friends?
For God?
It is only when we
focus on living these five characteristics of Jesus love: being generous,
non-judgmental, forgiving, transformative, and sacrificial—that we begin to
fulfill Jesus parting command—to love one another, as he loved us.